God calls us as parents to be key disciple-makers in our children’s lives, but if we’re honest, some days it’s a battle just to get them dressed and ready for school on time. How can you mold their hearts when sometimes you can’t even find their shoes?
In Total Family Makeover, author Melissa Spoelstra gives parents a way—a sort of spiritual track to run on—when it comes to building family discipleship. She focuses on eight key habits of growth:
—Spending Time in Prayer
—Reading God’s Word
—Growing Through a Mentoring Relationship
—Finding Community in the Church
—Taking Time to Rest
—Giving Back to God
—Sharing Your Faith
Disciples are made, not born. Whether your children are babes in arms or teenagers getting ready to leave the nest, making disciples at home starts with you! Give your family a makeover with this practical approach to helping your children learn what it means to be a follower of Jesus.
Here’s what I LOVED about Total Family Makeover (TFM)
The introduction “Your Kids are Not Your Report Card,” is spot on! This is an introduction you won’t want to skip, whether you are a parent newbie (like myself) or are an empty nester. In fact, I encourage you to go read it right now and come back later: The Parenting Report Card.
Did you go read the post? I hope so! If not, you can always click on it later or read it when you purchase the book.
When you sit down to read TFM, I recommend you read through with a spiral or calendar handy so that you can write down some of the practical “do it now” ideas Melissa provides. She organized each chapter in four sections. The introduction to the concept, ways you as a parent can model that concept, ideas for training your kids in these areas, and wraps everything up with some discussion questions to help the reader process the chapter.
I think this book would be a wonderful Bible study geared for parents with young children. However, I would also encourage parents who have “been there, done that,” to participate and help us newbies by sharing their wisdom. (Please, we need it!)
Melissa doesn’t leave all the questions for the end of the chapter. Peppered throughout the chapters are not only questions, but opportunities to pray. Even more, were the opportunities to put the book away and actually DO something with your family. And isn’t that the whole point? Drawing closer to Christ and helping our kids do the same, is not a passive activity.
If you look at the eight areas listed above (which is an outline of the chapters in her book), you may think it all looks rudimentary or no-brainers when it comes to spiritual disciplines. Simpleness aside, what family wouldn’t benefit from fresh ideas on drawing closer to Christ?
Melissa doesn’t come across like she has all the answers. In fact, she mentions several times that not everything she tried with her family worked and there were times things didn’t work because her heart was in the wrong place. BUT, what she does is provide us with new ideas to try with our own family. Disregarding what doesn’t work and holding on to what does.
My favorite chapter was Finding Community in the Church. She stresses the importance of getting plugged in, without making the reader feel guilty for missing out. I love what hse had to say about “church shopping.”
Churches come in all shapes and sizes. It’s not about finding the right kind. Instead, we must find the one where God is calling us to worship Him and fellowship with other believers.
What about you? Which of the eight areas would you like to see you family grow? When you pick up this book, you can start right where you want to! No need to go in order; plus, you can spend as much time on any given chapter as you want. No need to rush ahead (unless you’re under a deadline like I am).
The one thing I didn’t like about TFM was not having much or any room to write in answers to the questions. My personal preference is to have everything in one place, rather than have to keep track of a spiral with my answers. #toomuchforme
I would love to giveaway a copy of Melissa’s new book! For every ten comments, I will giveaway one copy of Total Family Makeover. Be sure to comment and share this post with your friends. (One comment per person will be counted.)
But wait, there’s more! Another opportunity to win a copy of TFM and more! Simply click the image below for a chance to win:
– A copy of Total Family Makeover
– A copy of Deep Blue Family Devotional: Fall 2016 – Summer 2017
– A copy of CEB Deep Blue Kids Bible Bright Sky Hardcover
– A $50 Pizza Hut gift card
– Qwirkle Board Game
Connect with Melissa Spoelstra
Melissa Spoelstra is a popular women’s conference speaker, Bible teacher, and writer who is madly in love with Jesus and passionate about helping women of all ages to seek Christ and know Him more intimately through serious Bible study. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in Bible Theology and enjoys teaching God’s Word to diverse groups and churches within the body of Christ. She is the author of the First Corinthians: Living Love When We Disagree, Joseph: The Journey to Forgiveness, and Jeremiah: Daring to Hope in an Unstable World Bible studies and the Mom’s Choice Award-winning Total Family Makeover: 8 Steps to Making Disciples at Home book. She lives in Dublin, Ohio, with her pastor husband and four kids. Find her online at www.MelissaSpoelstra.com
*I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.