When I think of Eryn, I think of our amazing theater days together at Concordia University in Austin. She has been my darker half, my servant, my rescuer, and my sister…all in the theater of course. Y’all, she is an incredible actress and an even better friend! I am beyond excited she has agreed to join Mike, Christy, Elosia, and myself here on #transformed. Not to sound like a complete ham, but I love watching Eryn’s faith explode and her heart for God deepen, even if it’s through the lens of Facebook. I’m sad she and I live so far apart from one another and thankful she will be sharing her life as a wife and mother with us on #transformed.
These are actual photos of my house, right now. It is a mess. I feel like I spend my whole life cleaning and picking up, and I never make a dent. It is discouraging…and if I’m being honest, it’s a little embarrassing. So why am I sharing these photos if it is discouraging and embarrassing?
One thing I have learned in my nine and a half years of parenting and homemaking is that hiding my messes feels good for a minute, but hiding them doesn’t erase them. They will always be there. A few years ago, I joined a moms’ group. It was intimidating at first. The ladies in this group were honest—about everything. They were honest about their messy houses, and about their messy lives. No one pretended to have it all together; everyone shared their struggles and frustrations openly. They didn’t allow the messes in their homes or in their lives to have power over them. While they shared, they bore each others’ burdens. They prayed for each other. They offered loving suggestions and practical help when appropriate. They let each other know that they loved each other—that they were in this life together.
And it wasn’t just messy houses they were discussing. They shared parenting problems, marriage problems, family issues, personal struggles. They laid all their messes out on that discussion table, and soon, so did I. I shared about my housekeeping struggles (which continue to this day), and someone shared a schedule she had started using to keep herself on track. I shared my parenting struggles and someone prayed with me. I shared my marriage issues and someone suggested a conference she and her husband had attended together. Soon, my burdens and my heart felt lighter because I wasn’t hiding them to bear alone. The lighter I became, the more I was able to reach out to others and bear their burdens with them, and the cycle continues to this day.
No one has it all together. If they say they do, they are lying (or they have a maid and a bunch of nannies or something), and nothing can be gained from lying. Being honest about our struggles is the only way to overcome them! The Bible tells us that IF we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us (I John 1:9). That forgiveness—the lifting of that burden—begins with honesty: a confession. If we want to receive help, we must first admit that we need help.
This awakening in me began about seven years ago. Now, I’ve got it all figured out.
I still struggle every day (see visual aid above). But I’m making progress. Even when I take two steps forward and one step back, that is progress. When I look back on who I was yesterday, the progress is hard to see, but when I look at myself seven years ago, I am hardly the same person. As I have been honest with myself, others, and most importantly the Lord, we have begun a radical transformation together.
And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in [me] will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. – Philippians 1:6
What would your life look like if you had a circle of friends who were honest about their imperfections? If you have such a community, what is the greatest blessing you have given/received from being a part of that fellowship?
Eryn is a thirty-something mother of three, living in the beautiful city of Richmond, Virginia. She, her kids, and her husband Bo attend Multiply House Church and she is very involved in Community Bible Study. She relies on Jesus daily to cope with her children’s shenanigans, which are plentiful. She also enjoys running and fitness, being involved in her kids’ school, and watching bad reality TV.