The #1 lie we believe about forgiveness.

forgive yourselfWe all have those nights.

Nights when we find ourselves crumpled on the floor, our soul crushed under the weight of what we’ve done. Our minds reeling with accusation.

No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to break free from _______.

What makes you think you deserve ___________ after what you’ve done?

Jesus died for you, but even He won’t forgive you for _____________.

You’ll never be a good ____________ now!

God can’t hear you through all your sin!

We huddle, clutching our Bible with an iron grip, desperate for the words, “you are forgiven,” to not only leap from the pages, but imprint on our heart. Willing those three little words to magically wash away the sludge of what we have done.

And then it happens. A well meaning friend or family member gives us the biggest lie we believe about forgiveness.

“::Insert your name::, you need to forgive yourself and move on.”

The truth is…we can’t forgive ourselves.

For some, this is a truth which will shake your world, leaving you to feel like the foundation you have been standing on for years has been completely destroyed. But no matter how solid it may seem, “forgiving yourself” is a foundation of shifting sand.

Let’s take a good look at God’s Word and place His unshakable Truth under our feet.

1.  It’s not in the Bible.

Believe it or not, there is not one single verse, passage, parable, or example of our ability to forgive ourselves. Oh there are LOADS of verses concerning stepping up to forgive others and receiving forgiveness from Christ, but Scripture never mentions or commands us to forgive ourselves.

But you don’t have to take my word for it; in fact, I strongly encourage you to take a good hard look for yourself.

2.  Our self-forgiveness is often repealed, again and again.

How often have we “forgiven” ourselves for something, only to find the same feelings of shame and condemnation down the road over the exact sin we already “forgave” ourselves for committing?

{Be careful not to confuse conviction from the Holy Spirit with condemnation from the Father of Lies.}

Forgiving yourself would be like taking a mud bath and washing ourselves with perfume. We “feel” clean for a little while, but the sweet smell of self-forgiveness fades and the stench of what we have done offends our heart yet again. Which leaves us right back where we started.

The truth is, if we practice self-forgiveness we only cover our sin rather than allowing Christ to completely wash us clean.

3.  If we could forgive ourselves…Jesus died for nothing.

Who am I? Am I God? Do I have the power to redeem myself for my life of sin? If so…Christ suffered and died for nothing.

Is there a way to make this truth any clearer?

What then? What are we left with? How do we move on when sin cakes our soul?

Confidently bring your sin to Christ.

I am not saying we should be proud of our sin; rather, “approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need,” Hebrews 4:16

God INVITES you to lay your sins at His feet. He has given His Son to die, so that, “though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool,Isaiah 1:18

He delights in forgiving us! “For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive, And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You.” Psalm 86:4-5

From the first moment sinned entered the world, God put His plan into action to redeem His children, “And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise His heel.” Genesis 3:15

This plan which came to fruition through Christ, “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

Therefore….LIVE forgiven!

This is tough for us, especially when we give in and listen to the Father of Lies. Though we have brought our sins to God and received His grace…we have a nasty habit of walking away with them again.

We forget, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.Psalm 103:12

Through Christ, we are, “a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!II Corinthians 5:17

Imagine you are going to the pool. You step into the water and the deeper you go, the higher the water rises. Now you are completely covered, water on all sides.

Ok, go deeper, sit on the bottom of the pool (don’t forget to hold your breath, I’m too far away for CPR).

Tell me…do you get wetter the deeper you get? Nope.

Once you are completely submerged, you are as wet as you will get.

You are engulfed by His grace. Christ died for your sins and THEY ARE GONE. The only way you can “escape” this forgiveness is if you reject it and jump out of the pool.

We don’t need to forgive ourselves.

Christ has already forgiven us once and for all through His life, death, and resurrection.

We need to live in the Truth. You and I are forgiven children of God.





One thought on “The #1 lie we believe about forgiveness.

  1. This is so great. I have hear it said that ” we must forgive ourselves ” , I have even tried too, but as I read this I realize what you are saying, I f I practice “forgiving myself. Why did JESUS died on the cross, why then do I need God’s Grace & mercy. Thank you so much for explaining this. To God be the glory. And may He continue to bless you.

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