Changing my perspective

I can’t control the things that happen to me each day, but I can control how I think about them. Lysa TerKeurst

Monday was one busy day! I had an appointment with my baby doctor for a glucose test…if you’ve ever had to do one, it’s pretty gross. From there I cleaned out my poor car, did a load of laundry, picked up my niece from school, did more laundry, put away dishes, made dinner, washed more dishes, and spent a couple of hours cleaning the house. I wanted everything to look spick and span. My small group Bible study group would be arriving at 7:00pm to start our study of Lysa TerKeurst’s book, Unglued.

I was so excited to get started with my girls! We took the summer off after we finished Wendy Blight’s online study on her amazing book Hidden Joy in a Dark Corner. My home was clean, made-from-scratch chocolate chip cookies sat out with freshly brewed decaf coffee, and a deliciously smelling candle flickered on the table. I had everything ready to go by 6:30pm, I even hooked my computer up to the TV with Christian tunes playing, Melissa Taylor’s blog up for anyone who still needed to register online, and a really cool background.

With heart and home ready, I sat eagerly waiting for the first arrivals.

And I waited.

Phone call number one: One of my ladies is home sick, the poor thing sounded awful.


Phone call number two: Another one of my sweet ladies is being admitted to the hospital and the one calling to tell me is on her way to be there. Two more not able to come…

More waiting…no more phone calls.

7:20pm I now have a choice before me…

I can come unglued bursting into tears and disappointment blaming myself for no one wanting to come, or even harbor anger that my hard work and preparations were completely wasted. Perhaps that anger could turn into bitterness tucked away for later use. I could just quit, canceling the rest of the study meeting here in my home.


I can choose to shift my perspective.

  • As I mentioned before, one of my ladies is sick and needed rest. SHIFT She was kind enough to call me and let me know, even though I could tell just by her voice, she should focus solely on resting. Plus, I’m 6 months pregnant, having someone here who is ill probably wouldn’t be good for me or my baby.
  • One precious woman has been admitted to the hospital with another woman from our group right there by her side. SHIFT Such beautiful sisterhood! She is being the hands and feet of Jesus, our sister is not alone in the hospital.
  • Other ladies in my group have new work schedules, ladies who have been searching for a job for months. SHIFT God has blessed them with work! We can rejoice together in worship on Sunday mornings, praising God for His provision in their lives.
  • All that work, cleaning my home, baking fresh cookies, making my home a welcoming environment for my lovely ladies. SHIFT My hubby and I enjoyed a sweet, unexpected moment together with fresh cookies and coffee.
  • All of my preparations for Bible study. SHIFT Time with God going through an incredible book is NEVER time wasted!

On another day, when my preggo hormones are in a tizzy, perhaps I’ll come unglued, but today I made imperfect progress. Today I made the choice to change my perspective, allowing God to penetrate my heart and mind.

How about you? Have you had to choose between coming unglued or allowing God to renew your heart and mind? I would love for you to share a snippet of your own imperfect progress.

47 thoughts on “Changing my perspective

  1. Heather thank you so much for your explanation and how you shifted your thinking, I would of gone to that place when I was 17 and no one showed up to my birthday party. Every time I plan a party now I have such anxiety from it. I liked all the examples


    1. Thanks for sharing! What a wonderful use of change in perspective! As a teacher I am learning that this is one of those things that I have to continually work on! Wonderful post and those wonderful sisters who are ill are in my prayers.


  2. Heather, Thank-you for sharing,it is so very easy to get “unglued”,it was so nice how you handled the situation. Maybe you also needed a time of rest,and to enjoy cookies and coffee with your hubby. God Bless those of us who get “Unglued”.


  3. Oh Heather, I can just imagine how you felt! I wish I could have been there to help you deal with those chocolate chip cookies. Oops, I meant to say ‘deal with your disappointment’. ;-). Seriously, love your post and I’m glad you were able to see the good side of things.


  4. Heather,
    Wow! 🙂 Your blog post is a great example of how to apply all of the things that we are learning in this Bible Study. Praise God for your growth and patience with all that could have “freaked you out.” Hope your group members will heal quickly, and that you will be able to share this wonderful testimony with them when you have your Bible Study! 🙂


  5. Heather, thank you for sharing. I could so easily put myself in your shoes. Praise God for giving you the grace to turn what could have been a cause for complaining into a cause for seeing it differently. And what a blessing to be able to spend the time with your hubby too. I guess the Lord saw that you both needed a bit of unexpected ‘couple’ time too especially in view of the change that will take place in three months time! Praying for your ladies and that they will be able to come next time.


  6. Heather, thanks for sharing your experiences and how you made a different choice today. I really appreciated your “hands on” experience and can apply it to my life. Have a blessed day!!


  7. Thnx Heather for sharing your imperfect progress! Actually you took a giant step instead of a baby step with this one! I appreciate your examples of “shifts” You are sooo on your way to being more “glued” together. =)


    1. Heather, thank you for sharing. I have another perspective, to look at. I see it as God using you to show us all exactly how to change our own perspectives. Oh and what an example you are. Thank you so much for being willing to be that example.


  8. I can totally relate to the preggo hormones and taking control and making imperfect progress! I’m due in 2 1/2 weeks with our second and my Unglued blog had much to do with hormones too! Way to find your perspective and move forward! Hope next week has better attendance!


  9. guess the book really helped you to make progress, even in the midst of disappointments. Good for you, enjoyed your blog, Blessings


  10. I loved this, I have been there a few times when leading bible study. I love how you shifted your view, this we definitely God testing you 🙂 and you passed.. Sending up a little praise with you dear sister in Christ.. High five… God is good..


  11. Thanks for sharing, Heather! I would love to be apart of your Bible study! You do a wonderful job explaining things, teaching us on how to look at things another way. I’m a sensitive person, hoping this Unglued bible study helps me with that. 🙂


  12. I needed to hear this today. It gave me a new perspective to be thankful I woke up at two in the morning fully awake. I got the chance to catch up with my mom, brother and friend. Living with a 14 hour time difference is a challenge to keeping non electronic communication alive. I shared fellowship instead of bemoaning sleeplessness.


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